I think when most people are on the receiving end of a gift or support we tend to respond as though gratitude and indebtedness are correlated. And most of us tend towards one end of the binary. Either we are grateful and feel indebted or, perhaps wishing to avoid indebtedness we cannot allow ourselves to be grateful.
Grateful and indebted Ungrateful and free
But what if those two are not on opposite ends of a single spectrum. What if they are related but not correlated?
The sweet spot is when we can be both grateful and free.
It is truly possible to feel deep gratitude and yet not feel like I have to try to repay the kind action in any way.
Being able to receive with grace is an important part of being fully alive.