Asking questions

I’m not quite sure why I find asking questions difficult. I have a theory, but mostly it is a story I have told myself to make sense of some of my quirks.

In the last year I have begun to ask questions. The last month or so has taught me that my default of trying to operate out of my assumptions is just a recipe for distress.

I am beginning to recognise that actually whatever I may have to say will be far better received if I begin by inquiring about the current paradigm.

Before I offer my solution, to say: I think we have a problem, what do you see?

Before I offer my insightful advice, to ask: where do you think you are?

It is ridiculously simple, but sometimes subconscious messaging can mean we overlook the glaringly obvious.

 

4 thoughts on “Asking questions

  1. This is so simple and yet so difficult. It is indeed, part of the art of listening well. So often we leap into solution mode rather than digging deeper and finding that the person with whom we are interacting has the solution within him/herself. There is a saying about making assumptions that I won’t repeat on your blog but periodically we were reminded of it in the corporate world. Thanks for this reminder of great wisdom.

  2. I am reminded of Rilke of course… However, for someone who claims I that I love questions, I know I do not ask them enough. Thanks for this post!

    “Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” –Rainer Maria Rilke

  3. The Art of asking good questions. Trevor Hudson did a brilliant lecture on this during our SD training and it is not easy.I would love more training as I believe it is a skill I can learn.

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