Truth telling

Over the last five or six years I have found increasingly that paying attention to my own interior areas of unfreedom has been instrumental in my development and growth. Interior unfreedoms present themselves in different ways Рthere are two key markers for me.

  1. A sense of ‘stuckness’ – recognising that I am either clinging to something or resisting something.
  2. Over reaction – recognising that whilst my reaction may be legitimate in essence, that the intensity of my reaction is out of proportion to the incident.

In both cases it may take a while of gently noticing, befriending and becoming curious about the unfreedom before I am able to identify its origin. In almost all cases the roots are deeply embedded in my own wounding.

Once I can name the real underlying fear I begin to pray for the grace of freedom. In many cases where that issue is linked to relationship with another it will require an honest conversation. Once I know the source of the unfreedom, I can have the conversation I need to have.

The whole process requires truth telling – I need to be honest about my interior freedom. I need to be honest about what is actually triggering me. Finally in my communication with the other I need to be honest about what I am feeling and how I am making sense of what is going on.

Engaging the other person requires discernment – are they able to have the kind of conversation I need to have? If not, it is probably wisest to continue the interior journey alone. But on the occasions that I have dared to tell my truth I have been delighted at the outcome.

Not only have I regained my interior freedom, but the relationship is on a firmer footing.

2 thoughts on “Truth telling

  1. Thank you Mags for a reflection that speaks to some of the tremendous difficulty I have had in learning to first of all speak the truth after I lifetime of providing answers that prop up the masks of both the recipient and myself. Secondly, as I grow in awareness by paying attention to my “markers”, I am learning to speak the truth but often find it a daunting task when the recepient refuses to hear it. It often feels like a new language.Thank you again.

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