I am beginning to wonder whether our greatest challenge is actually honesty with ourselves.
There is a spectrum which runs between desire and fear. I’m using desire here in the Ignatian sense. Desire here is a tool which can ultimately lead me to my True Self and into union with God.
Too often though we cloak our fear based motivations in the guise of some desire for good.
Any choice made which is based in fear is far less likely to have a good and fruitful outcome.
The issue is not the deception of the other, but rather our lack of honesty with ourselves. We justify our choices in all sorts of convoluted ways, where we would really get so much further if we could just own our fear.
Sometimes our fear is so great that it seems that no other choice is possible other than the one we choose. That’s not a disaster, unless we try reframe our fear into some ‘good’.
The only way to diminish the power of the fear is to own it.