You can’t delegate the thing you fear

I came across a poem by David Whyte last week entitled ‘Start close in’ – this is the first stanza.

Start close in,
don’t take the second step
or the third
start with that first
close in,
the step
you don’t want to take.

This poem, reinforced by life experience made me realize that we cannot delegate the step we don’t want to take. And it is usually fear which is driving the lack of desire to take the step.

It is so tempting to try to pass it on, and there will be those who are willing to assume the burden you would rather not carry. But ultimately it doesn’t work.

We can find good partnerships with those who complement our weaknesses and our strengths. But a healthy partnership will never be founded on the avoidance of a fear – I think they call that codependency!

So for me this week the challenge and the invitation remains to take the step I would rather not take.

3 thoughts on “You can’t delegate the thing you fear

  1. OH Mags, this is so on time for me. I have been fearing my research talk next week and as any young postgrad would do to their same-suffering peers, tried to delegate the session to someone else :’D BUT it simply must be done.

    Thank you for the emcouraging thoughts.

  2. There is great truth in this post. The first step is the hardest but we must take it. In my experience the second and third and so on are much easier. I appreciate that you refer to this as “the challenge and invitation” for our challenges present us with an invitation to grow. Blessings.

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