I came across a poem by David Whyte last week entitled ‘Start close in’ – this is the first stanza.
Start close in,
don’t take the second step
or the third
start with that first
you don’t want to take.
This poem, reinforced by life experience made me realize that we cannot delegate the step we don’t want to take. And it is usually fear which is driving the lack of desire to take the step.
It is so tempting to try to pass it on, and there will be those who are willing to assume the burden you would rather not carry. But ultimately it doesn’t work.
We can find good partnerships with those who complement our weaknesses and our strengths. But a healthy partnership will never be founded on the avoidance of a fear – I think they call that codependency!
So for me this week the challenge and the invitation remains to take the step I would rather not take.