I am a big fan of Brene Brown. Her work on vulnerability has certainly shaped my own thinking. But I confess that I was dubious about her latest book. The title, Rising Strong, was off-putting. I presumed that she had sold old to populist pressure to tell the ‘victorious’ tale.
I am delighted to say I couldn’t be more wrong.
The central premise is the ‘rumble’ phase. The discomfort of facing into what is actually happening in myself in the moments after I get hooked on something uncomfortable.
The crucial question – what is actually going on? Not what is the instinctual emotional response and what is the story I am telling myself to support my action – but what is actually real.
Do I dare to sit in my discomfort sufficiently long to find what it is in me that is being triggered?
Anything I tell myself about them and what they are doing is most likely rubbish. Knowledge I gain at a later stage after I have recovered from the initial shock of the triggering may be helpful. But I can be sure that any story I concoct, in the absence of new data, in the wake of a triggering incident is a crock of shit.
Life is too short for story telling – can we just commit to dealing with what is real?