Modern myths

There seems to be a strange idea which has been around for at least a decade, maybe longer, that we aren’t supposed to feel pain. That somehow the goal of life is to get to some Zen place where we can take whatever life throws at us without batting an eyelid.

The more I engage with the real stuff of living the more I think it is a crock of shit.

That kind of philosophy leads to denial of what is real, not engagement. Emotions are useful guides to navigating the world. And they should not rule our actions, but we need to feel.

I don’t want to live in a world where I don’t experience grief when some precious element of my life is removed. I want to experience love, joy, anger, frustration, peace. But I want to get to a space where those emotions, particularly the negative ones, flow through me unimpeded and therefore quickly.

The only way I can think to do that is to pay attention to the areas of my life which are not free. Where is my interior freedom constrained? If there are people I would rather not interact with, how do I come to a place where I can interact and allow the emotion that may be evoked to pass quickly? If there are things I’d rather not do but which are necessary, how do I embrace the task so that it isn’t emotionally demanding.

It is about learning to feel what is real, to accept the emotion and to allow it to pass.

The image in my mind is a water pipe. When strong emotion comes and the pipe is clear, i.e. I have interior freedom, the emotion can be very strong, but it will pass smoothly and quickly through my system. Every area of my life, or relationship which I declare to be ‘off limits’ is an impediment. With every emotional surge, eddy currents are set up and the result is turbulence. The more impediments, the longer and the stronger the turbulence.

Where are the areas of unfreedom in your life?

 

6 thoughts on “Modern myths

  1. Well Maggie. I have put this in my heart and prayer today.
    I found this very beautiful
    Let me ponder this now x

  2. There is great truth in what you have written. We must accept our emotions but not be imprisoned by them. This touches me very personally. Thank you.

  3. Your water pipe metaphor is a meaningful one. Maggie. Recognizing the turbulence I experience, all too often, gives me the power to let it go and return to my slow-moving stream.

  4. Your analogy of a water pipe of emotions with blockages, sometimes, is a simple, yet powerful one that shall stay with me. Unfortunately, I guess, if everything was calm and serene in our lives, what could we compare it to and judge it as a good place? If everyone were equally rich, or everyone were equally poor, would that represent a utopia? Could EVERYONE be good and saintly? I imagine these alternate worlds of equality of emotion, goodness, richness, poverty, and (perhaps) compassion. Would it be a good world, a boring world, or world worth living in and striving to achieve? Or would this be a goal to achieve heaven on earth. Food for thought on a night before I minister to a family who rival the trials of Job. But thank you for your spiritual thoughts and inter-continental electronic friendship and ministry!

  5. Thank you Maggie for sharing your solution for dealing with unpleasant, painful things. It is something I will remember in the dark moments of trial. As you say, culturally, I have learned to build insulations ( which I take it are constrictions) to weather the storms stoically. I have found this adds to the pain if I am found weak and unable to cope. I have tried the metaphor of the tree that sways in the face of a hurricane, bowing to the storm, to allow its destructive force to pass through and be gone. I feel convinced that the gurgling pipe has a more enriching experience and therefore becomes wiser, calmer and “perfected”.

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